Oxytocin and Healing Old Wounds
Benefit #4: Oxytocin repairs wounding of past relationships

Oxytocin is the hormone of relational restoration. Once we can experience within our bodies now a sense of safety and trust that permits us to take in a sense of connection and also belonging now, we will begin to cure the hole inside the heart from lack as well as loss of connection back then.
We have been hardwired inside our brainstem to be able to act in response with a separation distress response whenever we are suddenly cut off from a human association we rely on for physical as well as mental survival and also emotional well-being. There are neural cells about the heart which can be triggered when we long to connect with another, which explains why we truly feel a literal heartache whenever that longing for connection isn’t satisfied.
Oxytocin Is Available Without a Prescription
Whenever our desire for connection and love is fulfilled (and virtually any secure, loving relationship is able to do this, with a closest friend, a nurturing husband or wife or partner, a beloved child or even pet, a supportive grandparent or maybe teacher in the third grade, a counselor, a spiritual figure such as Jesus, the Dalai Lama, or Quan Yin), the relax and restore potential of oxytocin commences to work its healing magic.
One of my personal clients originally came to me with a terrible generalized anxiety disorder. In our initial session he claimed the only way he could come to feel safe and sound in this world was to imagine himself six feet underground before he had been born. After a while I learned one of the few places he actually had felt protected was in a faith based group where he could surrender himself to habits of faithfulness and transcendence. This kind of surrender wasnât escape or even dissociation but a faith based awakening backed by the oxytocin released simply by finding a protected haven inside an accepting society. Over more time, he was able to experience comparable safety with me, with his wife, with a expanding group of friends, to recover his capacities to trust and love others, to depend on trust and love from them.
Is this recovery of a feeling of basic safety in relationship, belonging and love uncomplicated or certain? Simply no. Is it feasible, despite many years of solitude and depression? Without a doubt.








